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    ...that weddings should make each & every guest feel full-throttle LOVED...that intimate groups equal tangible memories…that Spanish paella, Bollywood dancing & vintage vixen pin curls totally belong at the same party...that “traditional” doesn’t mean “suffocating,” and that grandma’s heirloom lace might look mighty fine against your modern gown...that monogrammed hand towels have no business in a love story...or that saying “I do” amongst the vineyards in Italy can be just as sacred as any church...

    You’ve stepped onto the launchpad for your uniquely chic & unabashedly original wedding. Seeking a seasoned co-pilot Wedding Planner for your wedding adventure — at home, or afar?

    Book me for a chat, and let’s talk LOVE.

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When The World Goes Haywire… A Few of my Favourite Things!

A Few of my Favourite Things

What cheers your day? A list of my 'favourite' pick me ups!

Every single one of us has had “one of those days” when nothing seems to go right and everything we touch falls apart. In a world that’s a-changin with everything from eco-meltdown to recession-mania it’s hard not to get a little down in the dumps.

Today, for me, I’m sad to say was one of those mornings. (I know y’all thought I was perfect right?);)

So here’s my lil list of sunshine that brightened my world and made today feel a lil less gripey and a whole lot more cheerful:

1) Rain while wet is actually quite good for the skin. Think moisture, think clean (come on we all know a person or two that should spend a bit more time in the rain for hygiene sake at the very least!).

2) My career and the awesome couples I get to interact with on a daily basis including 3 very fabulous couples today alone!

3) The glory of a fresh vegetable… yeah I know… this is my nerd-o-meter going up but it’s truth. I LOVE a great fresh veggie from the garden… either a la carte or with a smattering of herbs this is my own personal treat.

4) The gift of a valid passport and bundles of stamps on the pages. Yeah… their my treasures.

5) A cuddle with my wee spikey sidekick, Winston the hedgie (aka hedgehog). His sweet lil face makes my troubles seem to disappear.

6) AH-MAZING Friends. You all know who you are. You make each day worth waking up to.

7) Taxes being done. Yay! I know I don’t always LOVE tax season (besides accountants and the gov’t taking their cut – who does?!?!?!) but I’m thrilled to be through preparing them and on to the next thing…

8) Inspiration Abounds. I recently spent a couple days in Niagara seeking out the new, trendy, tried-and-true for our overseas clients in a bid to always bring something unexpected, challenging and creatively brilliant to each celebration. We toured new wineries, ate at some brilliant new caterers, picked blooms to swoon after and just stared off into the majesty of the falls. Now this, my friends, is heaven on earth.

9) My folks. Alright this is sappy but true. Without my mom & dad I wouldn’t be near the well-adjusted, type A, creative-goody that you see before you today. An only child (I’m sure that explains a LOT to folks), my proud parents were my moral compass, ever strong and true-north compass to the world. I love them dearly.

10) Blessings Abound. Over a dozen colleagues and friends have given birth to their own person prides-and-joys. Distinct Occasions is running with a supreme group of staff. Our satellite offices are booming and we’re considering growing again! I’m happy, healthy and love my life.

These are true meanings of happiness and a reason to smile. So, my quandry of the day… what makes you smile? What keeps you going? What’s your passion?

Crystal

Get Married in Scotland | Destination Weddings in Scotland, UK

Destination Wedding in Scotland from Distinct Occasions

Get married in Scotland with lochs, castles and rolling hills of green.

Born in Canada but brought up in a strong Scottish-Canadian home, I am a Lowland lass with a love of all things Scottish.I married a Scottish man who I had wear a Scottish kilt,we had a Scottish handfasting and even traveled to Scotland to be blessed by our Scottish families in a Scottish church.  My husband and I read Scottish blessings with bagpipes on the wind and he even stole a Mike Myers Scottish wedding moment during our first kiss as he raised his leg in honour!

Many moons ago, I began my career in weddings while a Masters student at the University of Stirling, Scotland. I found my passion, my joy, and my lifelong career amongst the highlands and proudly saw many a couple share their love and devotion on Scottish soil. Post-grad and married living in Toronto, I continued my passion in Toronto helping Canadian brides plan their wedding days!

Today, I think of the highlands and the places I’ve called home and think fondly of the couples both here and abroad I’ve had the honour of sharing wedding days with. Congratulations to my happy couples!

If you are ever planning a destination United Kingdom wedding, Distinct Occasions is only too happy to oblige and guide you to a traditional or modern wedding on foreign soil surrounded by glorious lochs, castles, or modern metropolis!

Happy Planning!

Wedding Dining Etiquette 101

Your wedding meal is no place to forget your manners! So here are a few essentials to remember when dining!

The Essentials

  1. Sometimes it’s hard to remember which glass or bread plate is yours. Just keep in mind that your liquids are on the right and your solids are on the left.
  2. As soon as you are seated, place your napkin in your lap. Do not remove it until the meal is finished. (Not just when you are finished but when everyone is finished and the meal is concluded.) Donot crumple or wad the napkin and place it in the plate. Partially re-fold it and place beside the plate.
  3. The traditional place setting has knives on the right side of the plate and forks on the left. The blade of the knife should be facing toward the plate. Confused by all that silverware? Just remember, start from the outside and work in toward the plate.
  4. Once silver is picked up from the table, it never touches the table again. Between bites, it is appropriate to rest a utensil across the side of the plate but do not lay it on the table or prop halfway on the table and against the plate.
  5. Do not begin eating until after everyone has been served. This is generally the rule when there are six or less people. At large functions with multiple tables of guests, wait until your table has been served. For other large groups, wait until given permission to start by the host or other group members or wait until a significant number of the group have beenserved.
  6. Break bread into small bite size pieces. Do not butter a whole slice orpiece of bread at once. Butter should be placed on the bread plate. Then spread small amounts of butter on the bite size pieces as needed.
  7. Food is served from left to right. When wait staff brings food, it will beserved from your left. The dishes will be removed from your right.
  8. Salt and pepper are always passed together. Consider them “married”. Even if someone only asks for salt, you still pass both.
  9. Hold a stemmed glass by the stem.
  10. When finished with each course, your knife blade (turned inward) and forkshould be placed together diagonally from upper left to lower right. (Think of a clock. Its the 11 o’clock and 5 o’clock positions.). This signals the waiter you are finished. Do not push your plate away (or otherwise rearrange your dishes when you are finished).

 

Personal Habits at the Table

  • Don’t talk with food in your mouth. Chew with your mouth closed.
  • Don’t order messy foods that are difficult to eat.
  • Don’t burp. If a burp or hiccup escapes, just quietly say, “excuse me.”
  • Keep your elbows off the table while eating.
  • Head for the rest rooms if you must remove something stuck between your teeth. Do not use a toothpick at the table.
  • Don’t gobble your food in a rush.
  • Never lift your soup bowl to drink the final drops. Tilt it away from you and scoop the final amount with the spoon pushing away from you.
  • Don’t lick your fingers, use a napkin.
  • Be on time.
  • Turn off your cell phone. (I AM GUILTY AS CHARGED)
  • Don’t order the most expensive item or the least expensive item on the menu when you are being entertained. Go with something in the middle price range.
  • Remember to smile & be gracious. Hosts are always happy to entertain cordial people.

Is My Destination Wedding Legal? | Precautions for Making Sure Your Wedding Is Legal

Dave & Charlotte's Australia Wedding. Images Courtesy: The Last Forty Percent

Get Married In Australia? Know Your Marriage Requirements!

With all of the drama & scandal around the legality of Destination Weddings over the past few years, I though it would be crucial to shed some light on what to look for (and look out for) in regards to planning your perfect LEGAL Destination Nuptials!

Two important things to consider:

  1. Some locations have very little red tape and others have a laundry list of requirements. A Wedding Planner is your expert go-to in terms of legalities, restrictions and red tape! Consider this your personal “piece of mind” whether using the venues coordinators or even better, your own subcontractor!
  2. Requirements and legislation change ALL THE TIME. Do your research – check out local governmental/tourist websites for the latest do’s and don’ts in your chosen locale. Another great option is to call the local Consulate in your area!
Destination Wedding in Jamaica

Destination Wedding in Jamaica Your Style? Make Sure You Meet The Marriage Requirements.

OTHER IMPORTANT CONSIDERATIONS

Residency Requirements

Does the country require you to be in residence for 3 days or 30 days? While 3 may be practical – 30 likely is NOT. Again, doing your research either via Wedding Planner, Web or Consulate will confirm this prior to your decision to wed there.

Waiting Periods

This is simply the amount of time between filing your application for marriage and the actual ceremony. Be sure to build in enough time to accomodate both your Residency Requirements and your Waiting Period for a smooth, happy and legal wedding day!

Entry Requirements

Again – RESEARCH! Check with your destinations consulate or embassy for current entry requirements. Passports and even Visas are requirements in many venues!

Documentation

Every destination will require some documentation, and often they need to be official, certified copies. Some countries also require forms to be notarized, authenticated or translated. If you have been previously married, you will need to provide proof of your single status which is generally a copy of your divorce decree or a death certificate. Always pack these essential documents in your carryon luggage and don’t forget to make copies (both hard and soft).

Medical Requirements

Some destinations require blood tests or medical exams prior to saying ‘I Do’. Check to find out if these tests need to be done locally or can be done and proven via doctors note from your family doctor.

Witnesses

When are they needed? How many and for what? Often Destinations require them for your ceremony but in some places their also needed when you apply for your marriage licence!

Fees

It is good to know ahead of time what the required fees are as well as the form of payment. Some destinations only accept CASH for marriage licences and you’ll need to plan in advance!

Religious Requirements

If you choose to have a religious ceremony at your chosen destination be forewarned that often there are more requirements including (baptismal records, premarital counselling, confirmation, birth/death certificates). Check with a local officiant who can further explain the requirements. Alternatively, if you bring your officiant with you, they will need to understand the destination’s legal requirements to be sure they can legally perform the ceremony.

Destination Weddings Require More Legal Pre-Planning.

Destination Wedding Planning? Make Sure It's Legal!

No matter where or how you decide to be married the key is timing, patience and a desire to simply be wed. Worst case scenario, perform your marriage legally locally and then perform a Vow Renewal at your chosen location. Guests don’t even need to know it’s not legal – call it your little secret!

How to Choose a Caterer for your Wedding

A key component to any great wedding or event is the RIGHT caterer. Someone who not only meets expectations but exceeds them, someone who can take your ideas, expand them and give you the most memorable meal on your most memorable day.

So, with that in mind… some pointers on choosing the right caterer:

Toronto Wedding Caterer - Marigolds & Onions
Does Your Wedding Caterer WOW You?

 

First Things First ~ What Do You Want?

 

The first key decision of finding the right caterer for you is to determine just what it is you want. Consider the type of food – cajun, mexican, japanese, etc. What style presentation and service would you prefer? Family style, food stations, passed hors d’oeurves, french style, buffet. Defining your catering needs makes it easier to recognize when you’ve found the caterer who can meet them.

Seafood-tini

Toronto Wedding Caterers Provide Unique Options

THE BASICS ~ BEFORE YOU CONTACT A CATERER

 

  1. What is your wedding date? What time is food needed?
  2. What is your location? Do they have an on-site caterer, exclusive caterer or preferred caterers?
  3. What is your budget and how many guests?
  4. What style of meal do you want? Gourmet? Casual? Traditional?
  5. How many courses? Appetizers? Late Night items? Edible Wedding Favors?
  6. Do you need “full service” catering? Someone who can handle all of your rentals as well as the food? Bar as well?
Toronto Wedding Caterer: Marigolds & Onions

Small Bites or Big Bites?

How Do You FIND The Right Caterer?

 

  1. Ask friends/colleagues for referrals. Think of past events you’ve attended that you loved. Who created them?
  2. Ask your Wedding Vendors – especially your WEDDING PLANNER – it’s our job to know who is the best of the best in our market and we’re more than happy to indulge you in our personal favourites to suit your needs.
  3. Consider unusual options – love the food at the local restaurant down the street? Talk to the manager and/or Owner to see if they provide catering services!

Narrow Down Your Options

 

Once you’ve found a few promising caterers, you need to determine which one can best match your needs. You’re going to have to ask a lot of questions and make a few observations to find the right one.

 

Call Prospective Caterers

 

  • Are they available for your date? How many events do they take on per day?
  • What is their pricing like for your menu ideas? Does it fit within your budget?
  • What types of food/cuisine do they provide? What is their “piece de resistance”? What has made them “famous”?
  • Are all of their ingredients fresh or frozen? Do they use certified organic food when possible?
  • Are they licenced to serve food and liquor? Are they adequately insured?
  • Can they deal with allergies (ex. peanuts)?
  • What services are included with your package? (staffing, rentals, permits)
  • Do you get to do a tasting of your chosen menu? When? Can you make changes from your tasting? How many people can be invited to the tasting?

Check References and Credentials

 

An often overlooked part of the process – checking references and credentials is key. You want to make sure who you choose is the best – so ask questions!

Toronto Wedding Caterer

Do you LOVE their food?

THE BASICS – PICKING THE BEST OF THE BEST

 

Once you’ve eliminated service providers that don’t seem like a good fit, schedule face-to-face meetings to find the best match for your event.

 

Menu:

 

  1. Ask the caterer for photos of past work – what does the presentation look like?
  2. Is all the food prepared on-site? Can you tour the facility? Check for cleanliness!
  3. Choose your menu and type of service:
    1. Do you want a regional, seasonal or ethnic menu?
    2. Are there food allergies/dietary restrictions?
    3. Do you want something very modern or classic? New and trendy or tried and true?
  4. Tell the caterer what you kind of atmosphere you are trying to create and what you have in mind for food type and the number of courses so that they can draft a catering proposal.
  5. Book a tasting for the menu that you’ve selected.

THE BASICS – MENU TASTINGS FOR YOUR WEDDING

  1. Most caterers will offer a gratis (free) tasting to clients using a Wedding Planner. However, some do charge a nominal fee for a food tasting when you have not signed an agreement to use said Caterer prior to the tasting. It is worthwhile even to do a paid caterer to ensure it’s the RIGHT caterer for you.
  2. Always ask how many can attend the menu tasting (tip: your Wedding Planner should be one of them).
  3. NEVER schedule more than one tasting in a day (trust me, your gut can’t handle it – their a LOT of food).

Super Sweet Serving Methods Make Food Memorable

THE BASICS – BOOKING YOUR WEDDING CATERER

 

Once you’ve found your caterer the fun doesn’t stop there! To make sure their service shines and creates a memorable meal for your big day don’t forget to:

 

    • Do a site visit with your caterer.
    • Finalize your menu choices & pricing.
    • Create an Event Itinerary (see your Wedding Planner).

 

 

THE BASICS – CATERING CONTRACTS

Sign a contract – READ IT – insist on changes if necessary!
Your Wedding Caterer’s contract should include:

 

  • The location (by its exact name, date, time and duration of your event).
  • The number of guests, price per guest, and overall price.
  • Details, such as when the food will be served and how long the bar will be open.
  • Financial and business details, such as deposit amount and proof of insurance.
  • Specify the cancellation and refund policy!

Sign your contract, pay your deposit – VOILA! You’ve hired your very own wedding caterer!


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